Couple Relationship Snapshot
This relationship “snapshot” identifies specific skills and behaviors that Marriage Works is teaching couples and individuals right now. You can check those skills you need to learn, as a first step to deciding on a class or a customized program.

I/We want to learn how to reduce our negative interactions, especially to:
Stop arguments from escalating into major all-out fights.
Repair the damage after an argument, or when one of us says something hurtful.
Avoid criticizing and blaming each other personally when something goes wrong.
Bring up topics so that the other person doesn’t become defensive.
Stop interpreting negatively what the other person is doing, or their intentions.
Keep discussions safe so that neither of us withdraws or stonewalls and refuses to come back to it.
Listen to each other on important topics without interrupting, disageeing or rebutting.
Calm down physically and emotionally after an argument, so we can get together again in a more constructive way.
Forgive each other for past hurts.

I/We want to learn how to increase our positive interactions, especially:
Take each other’s perspective -- see a problem from each other’s point of view
Discuss important “hot topics” or problems in ways that we each find helpful.
Negotiate problems or decisions so that both of us “win”, and feel our needs and
values are understood.
Have fun together as a couple.
Express appreciation of each other regularly.
Stay connected with each other as friends, even when times are stressful /busy.
Set aside times to be together as a couple for physical and emotional intimacy.
Adjust to different levels of sexual desire without hurt feelings.
Strengthen our commitment to our relationship and make it a priority in the future.
 
 
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"When we did the story of our relationship, I realized I never saw it from his point of view before."
- Deanna